Tension. Some of us run towards it, while others of us avoid it like the plague. Love it, or hate it - a close relationship between two people always necessarily involves a degree of tension. The challenge is to keep the level of tension at a healthy, sustainable level. Too little tension and we barely have a connection at all. Too much tension and I’m having an identity crisis every time you don’t treat me the way I want to be treated. Unsustainable.
In this episode, I dive into how Cora and I have wrestled with this in our relationship and with others. At the time of recording, we were in the midst of over 2 months of being apart from each other. It seemed a fitting time to talk about how to navigate the challenges of unmet needs in close relationships. I unpack a 9-point grid to help you recognise codependency [too much tension] as well disconnection [too little tension] and give some tips on what to do about it.
